We often mix up the difference between “Success” and “Value”. Success is what we do and accomplish. Success is scoring a touchdown, running a race, winning the spelling bee. Value is who we are. It’s what’s on the inside. Value is how we treat others. Value is being kind, respectful, honoring. Although success is fun and creates great memories with our children, we want them to be people of value. Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things. Phil 4:8
Children develop how think about themselves at an early age. They soak in how people treat each other and how others treat them. Right or wrong they develop perceptions of themselves by their surrounding inputs. It doesn’t have to be a correct perception, but it is the perception they carry into their adult lives. What self image are our children forming about themselves. What self acceptance, or lack thereof, are they thinking… Are they smart? Is there appearance acceptable? Do others want to be around them? Do people value what they have to say? These are all questions we as adults ask ourselves, and they come from experiences we had when we were young, and develop how we cope with rejection and how we handle conflict in our adult lives.